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Anal sex is a sexual practice surrounded by taboos. The stereotypes around anal penetration die hard!

Yet, when done well, it transforms your intimate moments into an intense source of pleasure and closeness between both partners, and can even open the door to new experiences such as the practice of soft BDSM.

But before taking the plunge, many people — especially those new to it — wonder about the best approach to pain-free anal sex, the type of preparation required, or the best positions to try during a first anal experience.

"Strap-on-me® shares all the keys to success for approaching this practice with gentleness, respect and safety. Follow the guide!"

Anal sex in brief

Preparation is the key word in anal sex! This is especially true for beginners. To prepare yourself well, don't overlook: 

• The use of a water-based lubricant to improve glide and increase comfort;

• Getting started: gentle and sensual foreplay with lingering kisses and playful caresses, followed by gradual penetration with fingers or small sex toys;

• Communication with your partner: as with any sexual practice, consent and respect for the other person's desires are essential.

The key lies above all in finding the right balance to minimise discomfort for both the person being penetrated and the person doing the penetrating.

Note that anal sex does not necessarily require a penis. Do you know what pegging is? It's the anal penetration of a woman using a strap-on dildo! When it comes to anal sex, anything goes!

Who is anal sex for?

Although anal sex has long been associated with homosexual people (particularly two male partners), it is not reserved for a specific audience: it is open and accessible to everyone — men, women, heterosexual, bisexual or homosexual — provided it is practised with complete mutual respect and trust.

The choice is yours and should never be an obligation or a decision made under pressure. Daring to explore it sometimes means breaking a taboo, but above all opening a new door to intimacy within a relationship. The representations around this practice are often linked to very specific fantasies and desires, a subject explored in depth in this article on the male fantasies behind anal sex.

What pleasures does anal penetration bring?

Like the vagina, the anal area has an infinite number of nerve endings, offering just as many opportunities for pleasure!

Anal sex appeals to both sexes thanks to its incredible ability to stimulate numerous pleasure zones: 

• For men: anal sex directly stimulates the prostate, also known as the

• P-spot, a true source of intense orgasms;

• For women: anal penetration exerts internal pressure that indirectly stimulates

• the vagina and clitoris indirectly. Combined with vaginal penetration, it promises an unforgettable journey to the heights of ecstasy…;

• For couples: beyond physical pleasure, anal sex deepens the bond and connection between both partners, as it requires trust, attentiveness and communication.

How to prepare your body for a first anal sex experience?

While the practice is above all about sensations, good preparation before an anal experience is recommended.

Hygiene

Opinions differ regarding preparing the anal area before anal sex. Some prefer to use an enema, while others favour a shower to cleanse.

Preparation should, however, remain light and comfortable for everyone.

Diet

Before anal sex, avoid heavy or overly spicy meals as they risk causing discomfort or bloating that may limit your movement. This is equally true for any other sexual practice!

Opt for a light diet.

Psychological preparation

The mind plays a central role in anal sex. To get the most pleasure, there's no secret: you need to be relaxed, attuned to yourself and to your partner. Communication is essential: express your desires, your fears and your limits.

Why is lubricant essential?

Unlike the vagina, the anus produces no natural lubrication. Attempting anal sex without added lubricant therefore considerably increases the risk of pain, irritation or injury.

To make the best choice, select your lubricant:

• Water-based: very easy to clean, it is compatible with the vast majority of sex toys such as our harness-free strap-on dildos or our ejaculating dildos and condoms, but may dry out more quickly;

• Silicone-based: it offers long-lasting glide and is therefore perfect for extended sessions. However, it is not compatible with silicone sex toys, which limits its usage possibilities;

• Hybrid (water + silicone) : this lubricant combines comfort and durability, making it an excellent compromise between the two.

The golden rule when it comes to lubricant: more is more! Apply it generously, and reapply as needed during the act.

Comparison table: suitable Strap On Me lubricants

To help you choose the right product, discover a simple comparison of our lubricants for anal practices, by strap-on-me®:

Discover our full range and choose the lubricant suited to your desires.

Our practical tips for a successful experience

For a pleasant and comfortable practice, proceed step by step: 

• Start with caresses and massages: the anus is sensitive, take the time to properly prepare and relax the area;

• Use your fingers or small sex toys : a slim dildo, an anal plug or a gloved finger can gradually prepare the body to receive a penis. Take a look at our dildo collection ! ;

• Choose the right position : Spooning to start gently, the doggy style position for good control, or modified missionary for prolonged eye contact and enjoyable intimacy.

 
Frequently asked questions about how to have anal sex

Can I practise anal sex without lubricant?

No, the use of lubricant is essential during anal sex in order to avoid pain and discomfort.

Am I at risk of pain?

The first experience may require some adjustment time. However, with good preparation and by taking your time, pleasure will soon be part of the equation! 

What sex toys can I use to practise?

Sex toy preferences are personal to each individual. However, as a beginner, you can try anal plugs, slim dildos or anal beads to gradually discover new sensations.

Can I practise anal sex during my period?

Many women continue to have sexual intercourse during their period. Anal sex is not contraindicated during menstruation, but depends greatly on each person's preference. 

Can I have an anal orgasm?

In men, anal sex stimulates the prostate, and in women it offers indirect stimulation of the vagina and clitoris. Both partners who engage in this practice can therefore easily achieve anal orgasm.