Pegging — which translates as "chevillage" in French (less sexy, we'll give you that!) — is a sexual practice well known among sex toy enthusiasts, including dildos, strap-ons and harnesses. This alternative way of enjoying pleasure as a couple is gaining more and more followers, and even those who haven't tried it yet have almost certainly heard of it.
Let her take the reins of pleasure for two and discover our tips for diving in without taboo, inhibition or vulnerability!
Pay attention — something tells us your sex life is about to change!
What exactly is pegging?
Definition of pegging
To give a clear definition of pegging, it refers to a woman who uses a sex toy to penetrate her partner anally. While in practice, anyone can wear a harness and a realistic dildo to fulfil their fantasies and explore the pleasures of anal stimulation, the term "pegging" specifically refers to a man (or any body with a penis) being penetrated by a woman (or any body with a vagina).
This remarkable practice challenges all the codes of traditional sex that imposes a model of a woman being penetrated by a man. One thing is certain — the idea of giving it a go won't leave you indifferent.
Yet in contemporary society, attitudes are evolving and grimaces are gradually giving way to curiosity and… excitement.
Today, pegging has become very trendy, particularly in pop culture and among couples in search of uninhibited sexuality: it is increasingly becoming something for men too.
A sexual practice that's far from new
In the realm of anal penetration, pegging is nothing new. Indeed, it is said that the Romans (always them) were already indulging in it in the brothels of Pompeii. While the practice dates back to Antiquity, it wasn't until the beginning of the 21st century that heterosexual anal sex acquired a name.
In 2001, a major initiative was launched in the pages of thestranger.com by American author, journalist and LGBT activist Dan Savage. It was high time to bring this sexual practice into the great erotic dictionary. Three terms were proposed, but it was "peg" that won the popular vote. Long live the pegging!
Its creator even believes that every man should try it at least once in their life. Of course, Dan Savage's wish is still far from being fulfilled, but his initiative has the merit of breaking the ice and lifting the taboo around anal pleasure.
Pegging is gradually making its mark in popular culture. The most famous example is certainly the humorous nod to pegging* in the American blockbuster Deadpool.
Proof that conversations are opening up!
* it wasn't until 2016 that the word "pegging" officially entered the French erotic vocabulary.
Why try pegging?
Pegging, a sexual practice in vogue
While anal penetration for men is widely associated with gay men, stereotypes are gradually fading: the practice is becoming increasingly popular regardless of sexual orientation!
Particularly appreciated by men and women in search of new sensations, pegging offers a new way to approach sexuality, free from inhibition.
The commercial director of Strap-On-Me confirms: "People are speaking more openly and the taboos around pegging are completely falling away — it's a practice that is increasingly present, uninhibited and embraced." A trend reflected in the figures: "Our sales have grown steadily since 2020!", she adds.
So, to meet this growing demand, the offering has evolved too. Gone are the vulgar, low-quality dildos — welcome to innovative strap-ons, with elegant, ergonomic designs. Anal pleasure, yes — but with delicacy and pure sensuality.
And preferably together! "Our customers are increasingly looking for products that put couple's play front and centre. Playing together is something that connects human beings and opens up emotional intimacy. Today, couples want to explore and experience pleasure in new ways, discovering new intimate rituals."
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Pegging, for discovering new physical sensations
Sodomising your husband? Being penetrated by your partner instead of engaging in traditional female sodomy? You may be wondering why some couples are so passionate about pegging. The reason is simple: because it allows you to discover new sensations… and they bring a great deal of anal pleasure for the man!
Men also have a G-spot — or rather a P-spot — nestled in the highly erogenous zone surrounding the prostate. Stimulation of the prostate gland can trigger powerful orgasms that feel very different from the pleasure experienced during ejaculation.
The perfect way to hit two birds with one stone and reach nirvana!
In his book "Prostate: l'organe mystérieux qui vous veut du bien" (Ed. L'Opportun), Dr Patrick Papazian explains: "Unlike the penile orgasm, which is outward-facing, the prostate orgasm is deep and internal, proceeding through micro-contractions up to the point of no return." In short, pegging allows a man to experience a very feminine form of orgasm.
For women too, pegging is an incredibly pleasurable and unique experience. The base of the dildo stimulates the clitoris and can even trigger multiple orgasms during a single session. A discovery that perfectly echoes what a guide to multiple orgasms allows you to explore in depth.
For fans of strap-on*, the sensations are even more intense since the woman is also penetrated: the insertable egg nestles comfortably in the vagina and stays securely in place throughout the session. Whether vibrating or not, strap-ons offer dual stimulation of the clitoris and the G-spot. The guarantee of explosive orgasms!
But the benefits go far beyond simple physical pleasure. Pegging opens up new emotional pathways through the trust, intimacy and creativity it unlocks between partners. This playful role reversal offers a whole new experience.
*Did you notice? Ironically, strap-on is an anagram of "no-parts" in English!
The pleasures of sexual reciprocity
Pegging also offers a unique sensory experience in the bedroom. With roles reversed, each partner steps out of their usual position and into the other's. And for some couples, the subversion of stereotypes associated with this sexual reciprocity with a hybrid dildo is enough to inspire immense pleasure.
This time, it is the woman who takes a more active and assertive role in the sexual act. She gets to enjoy the visual pleasure usually reserved for men. Yes, yes, a little voyeurism is always exciting.
For him, pegging allows him to let go and surrender to the pleasure of being penetrated. No longer in control of his sensations, he is better able to connect with his emotions and his feelings.
Pegging offers the opportunity to explore your sensuality by breaking free from traditional role patterns in the bedroom. It allows you to live your sexuality fully and free from gender pressure.
"Role reversal in playful intimacy is something universal — it speaks to everyone, it appeals to everyone, regardless of age, gender, colour, race or sexual orientation," explains the commercial director of Strap-On-Me.
Yes, pegging can also be a little philosophical!
Dispelling misconceptions about pegging
Pegging raises many questions and apprehensions, particularly among those with no experience of it. The practice is often wrongly associated with questioning one's masculinity or sexual orientation. Yet enjoying anal or prostate stimulation defines neither identity, nor masculinity, nor a person's romantic preferences.
Pegging opens a new door to sexuality, allowing you to explore a highly sensitive area, notably the P-spot, in an intimate, consensual and caring setting. Used with gentleness, communication and intimate gel, it can offer new sensations while deepening the couple's intimacy.
How to try pegging for the first time?
The key to initiating this uninhibited practice is communication! The notion of consent between adults is essential in any sexual context, so express yourself freely and allow your partner to do the same.
Discover some practical tips to get started with pegging!
Talking openly about your desires with your partner
You desperately want to try pegging, but you're nervous about your partner's reaction? That's completely normal — it's not an easy subject to bring up.
Pegging involves a shift in roles that inevitably touches on one's self-image. Your man might feel his masculinity is being challenged, or your woman may be reluctant to step outside her sense of femininity.
So, to break the ice, take it slowly — and resist the urge to come home with a strap-on and announce to your partner: "darling, tonight I'm all yours".
You could, for example, introduce the idea in a light-hearted way, then explain why it intrigues and excites you, and show your partner your favourite strap-on-me accessory.
Take your time: exploring step by step
Patience and preparation are the watchwords for taking part in these naughty couple's games.
Approach the subject calmly and openly with your partner:
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Your preferred position: doggy style, reverse cowgirl, etc.;
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Preparing your body and your desire with intimate gel, an erotic setting, etc.;
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Boundaries and agreeing on a word or gesture to stop things if needed.
What equipment should you choose to get started?
Choosing the right harness
Our motto: pleasure with elegance. Our brand prioritises aesthetics and boldness above all in its choice of products and sex toy accessories: a premium approach, with no compromise! So, when choosing your harness, we've selected the very best to ensure comfort, quality and a touch of eroticism to make you feel sexier than ever!
Choose a lingerie harness for ultimate comfort and a look that oozes sensuality. Lace, suspenders and straps all come together to give you a chic and breathtaking pegging session.
For the initiated, the faux-leather harness is all the rage! Bold, a little naughty and fully adjustable, it will reveal your deepest desires in every detail.
Choosing the right plug or dildo to begin with
To put it simply, three penetration options are available to you. Choose your item:
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a dildo for pegging: depending on your desires, it can stimulate the G-spot and P-spot, be semi-realistic, suction cup, realistic, or even a dildo that simulates ejaculation. Note that, for couple's play, you'll need a strap-on harness to secure your dildo;
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a non-vibrating strap-on-me or anal plug dildo : the ideal solution for exploring new sensations as a couple. No harness needed, as an egg also penetrates your female partner and ensures a secure fit;
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a vibrating strap-on : to multiply your pleasures. These unique strap-ons are equipped with three motors that stimulate the G-spot, the clitoris and the P-spot, each controllable separately and remotely via a remote control.
Finally, if you're experiencing pegging for the first time, don't be too ambitious — opt for a smaller size. Choose a dildo for women and enjoy realistic, deeply satisfying sensations.
Ready to step through to the other side?
The importance of intimate gel for comfort
Whatever your choice, from an XXL dildo to a suction cup dildo, we recommend adding a water-based anal lubricant (and strictly water-based if your toy is made of silicone), for a smooth and gentle penetration.
The ideal positions for getting started with pegging
Take your position for pleasure by choosing when and, most importantly, how you want to enjoy this practice!
Simple and comfortable positions for beginners
New to the art of pegging? Start with a comfortable and enjoyable position to maximise your pleasure.
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Doggy style: this much-loved position needs no introduction. The penetrated partner gets on all fours, facing away, while their partner penetrates them from behind. Thanks to the deep penetration it allows, this position can take you to nirvana in the blink of an eye;
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The spoon : a tender and delicate position, the spoon or position 99 makes for intimate and sensual moments. One partner lies on their side and the other nestles behind them for a smooth and caress-filled penetration. A variation involves lifting one leg for even more pleasure;
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Cowgirl and reverse cowgirl : when it comes to dominance, the cowgirl position is an absolute classic. The partner straddles their partner, who lies on their back. The ride can begin, offering a breathtaking view of the pleasure-filled body of the dominant partner. The reverse cowgirl variant involves straddling your partner but facing away.
Exploring at your own pace and comfort level
Whatever position you choose and however long your session lasts, the key is to adapt the experience to your level and, above all, to your desire.
Don't hesitate to try different positions to find the one that truly sweeps you away — especially when you're just starting out with pegging!
Mistakes to avoid when getting started with pegging
Don't rush things
A quick and easy pleasure? Not quite — pegging requires slowing things down to ensure comfortable sensations for both partners.
Don't rush the stages — take your time and find your rhythm without confusing speed with haste!
Neglecting post-experience communication
After a first pegging experience, it's essential to talk things over with your partner. Sharing what you enjoyed — and what you didn't — will help shape even more mind-blowing sessions in the future.
Break the taboos and share your doubts or desires with your partner : it's well worth it!
Choosing the wrong equipment
The right equipment is essential for pegging. Take the time to explore your options and adjust them according to your experience level and your desires. When it comes to accessories, the choice is vast — so, are you ready to equip yourself with a strap-on harness?
The best way to find what suits you is to try them out!
Aftercare: extending the closeness after the experience
Aftercare refers to all the moments of comfort, connection and shared attention enjoyed after an intimate experience. Widely practised in the BDSM world, the term highlights the emotional and physical well-being of partners once the experience has come to a close.
After a pegging session, taking a few minutes to talk, reassure each other, cuddle or simply relax together helps to strengthen trust and intimacy. It's a precious moment to share feelings, boundaries, desires or emotions gently and without judgement.
This attention paid to the post-experience contributes to creating a calmer, more intimate and more respectful relationship, where pleasure always goes hand in hand with listening, communication and consent.
Pegging FAQ
What toy should I use to start pegging?
To get started with this uninhibited sexual practice, you can choose between a dildo, a strap-on (harness-free strap-on or with harness), vibrating or non-vibrating, according to your preferences.
The most important thing when you're a beginner is to start slowly and not run before you can walk. Opt for smaller toys at first and gradually move on to larger sex toys as you gain experience.
Is pegging painful?
As with any sexual practice, pegging should never be painful! To avoid discomfort, follow these tips:
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Adequate preparation: stimulation or massage of the anal area, for example;
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Open and uninhibited communication with your partner: expressing your pleasure or, on the contrary, your discomfort during the act;
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A suitable intimate gel: for a smooth and comfortable experience, using an intimate gel is essential. Make sure it is compatible with your sex toy.
How to talk to your partner about pegging?
While pegging may seem taboo, the key is to approach it calmly and without embarrassment! The important thing is to explain to your partner why you want to explore this aspect of your pleasure and shake up the routine.
Show them sex toys on our dedicated page, tell them how you'd like to proceed and let them ask any questions they feel are important — all of this encourages a positive and trusting experience!
What lubricant should you use for pegging?
For pegging, use a generous intimate gel compatible with your sex toy. Water-based intimate gels are the most versatile, especially with silicone dildos. Reapply as needed to minimise any discomfort.
Is pegging only for heterosexual couples?
Pegging can be enjoyed by all couples, regardless of their sexual orientation or gender identity. What matters most is the desire to explore this practice and the mutual expression of consent when the moment comes.
Does pegging call my partner's masculinity into question?
Enjoying pegging or prostate stimulation does not call into question virility, identity or sexual orientation. On the contrary, it is a very widespread intimate practice, built on trust, communication and shared pleasure.
